Dette's Spot

Life's Bitter Truth

2009-09-07T17:01:00.000-07:00

I thought I would never find myself making a new post in my blog, until this very day. These past few months I have been very preoccupied with a lot of things. There are things about my personal life that require my full attention, thus I would have to put aside some things that are irrelevant at the time being.

First, there is the business thing. I am obliged to think of a business idea which I have to put up sooner or later. This is a must for our very enormous family. As of the moment, my husband is the sole breadwinner in the family. We both believe that we cannot live and be satisfied for what today is offering but we should think of tomorrow and the days after that. There are so many things that we need to prepare for our kids' future. For us to realize these magnanimous dream, we must be prepared, financially so to speak. We only want to give and offer them the best for their future. Very noble isn't it? We just hope that our kids will appreciate our deeds. I can say that our family belongs to the strata of middle-middle class in the society. A society wherein the rich has all the opportunity to become richer and the poor are getting poorer and poorer. Yes, I live in a capitalist country. That's just one of life's bitter reality. Going back to the business scheme which I have been fussing for a couple of years already,(If I am not mistaken!), I have already come up with tons of ideas which later disregarded because they are just not feasible. I thought of the things that I find very interesting to me. But I am aware that interest is not enough to sustain a business. I have so many things to consider too. I got to think of the target market, the capital, return of investment and so forth and so on. Whoah! Stuff like these have been the determinants of my business venture. Finally I ended up with no business yet to put up. Hopefully, before this year ends, I would be able to share with you a good news on my business venture and adventure. Everything is in the bag now but I hate to spoil things.

Secondly, I come across a very traumatic, If I may say, situation. I found myself trapped in a situation wherein trust, honesty and betrayal are the key players. Gees, I thought that at this point in time I have already mastered life's eccentricities but I am wrong. I was really caught unaware and totally disheveled.I learned that the cliche, you cannot please everybody is very much apt all the time. My only mistake is that I have been very gullible again despite of my vulnerability. I easily put my trust, faith , respect and affection to anyone who seem to be nice and friendly to me. I am still thankful to God that I made this realization just right on time. I know now that God is still good to me because He never let me in a very big trouble and catastrophic state. I made a vow to myself now, not to trust a person completely and totally. I am hoping and praying that after this turn of events in my life, I have already learned a lesson and despite the heartaches and tears, I pray that could still find it in my heart to trust a person. As of the moment, I doubt everyone. I would never make a fool of myself again. Am I bitter? Yes, I am. That's life's bitter truth.

Death of Francis M.

2009-03-06T07:30:00.000-08:00

News on Francis M.'s death hit the whole country in big shock. That's usually how it is when a famous personality passed away. Many Filipinos are now mourning for Francis' death. In line with that, a lot of people are now visiting Francis' website at multiply.com and even browsing the you tube. He was one techie person for sure. He blogged about his experiences no matter how painful his battle and fight for the big C was. I guess, the artist in him can't help but be known to the people. Even at the lowest, most painful and hardest times in his life, he made it a point that his fans , friends and fellow Filipino can see how he fought his own battle. I guess that's the essence of updating the public of his experiences at the 14th floor of the Medical City. People who are sick of cancer can draw strength and courage from Francis. He was some tough guy. He wanted to leave a message to a lot of people that while there is life there is hope. He also wanted people to relive and renew their faith to our Creator. I really looked up to him for his being patriotic, nationalistic, a good father, rapper, business man and a true son of God.

It is expected that the two competing giant networks in the country, (ABS-CBN and GMA 7), impressed the viewing public with their own unique kind of reportage on the life and times of Francis Magalona. I guess, in times such as these, rating game should be put aside. Whether you are a kapamilya or a kapuso it doesn't really matter. We are all Filipinos. This is what matters!

Francis M was one great artist in this lifetime. His life and times are so remarkable that he left the movie and music industry with so much legacy that no one can easily forget. I hope that another Francis M. will be born again. Good bye for now Francis M.!

Acobay

2009-02-16T20:09:00.000-08:00

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Cheap Domain Names and Web Hosting @UK

2009-02-16T17:07:00.000-08:00

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Is the initial registration price low?

Do they charge high rates for renewal of your domain name?

Is the domain name in your name?

Does it include a homepage builder with your domain name? Can you build up to a 3 page website? Can you change it as often as you want?

Does it include email forwarding addresses with your domain name?

Does it include URL forwarding - masked and unmasked - for free?

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With these in mind, I bet in no time you can buy domain hosting without being charged of any hidden charges.

How to be a good parent?

2009-02-15T16:47:00.000-08:00

There is no such thing as a perfect existence. We all know that. It is the nature of a human being, to err. However, each one of us must make it our business to be good in everything that we do. As much as possible, stick to your standards and principles. As a parent, we all have our own flaws and shortcomings to our very own kids. No doubt about that. The question is, are we satisfied by the way things are going on inside our own household? Are we harboring a good and harmonious relationship with every family member? Are you, at any rate, a good parent? These are simple questions but can not be easily answered by any parent. Why? Simply for a reason that a lot of things are easier said than done. A parent may know the rules of the game and the technical and theoretical knowledge and approach in raising a family but surprisingly when she plunges into the very scenario, it is more likely that he/she trips.

I am not that good in parenting but please let me share with you some of my insights on how to be a good parent.

1. Do not underestimate your children. Even at a very young age, talk with them as if they are of your age. You may not know it but kids are better listeners than adults. They have this tendency to absorb everything that adults tell them. So, there, be careful in uttering words.
2. Treat your kids with utmost respect. I guess, everybody deserves to be respected regardless of their age. If you respect a person, rest assured that you will also gain that respect from that person.
3.Try not to shout when you are mad. I find this very hard to do. Emotions are very hard to control especially when you are at the very apex of that particular emotion.But at least, try to control it. Any outburst of emotion may affect your child emotionally and psychologically.
4. Lead by example. This is the best rule on how to be a good parent. If you are trying to educate your kid, start with yourself first so that your kids will surely follow.

I will try to give you more of my parenting techniques in my future posts. For now, happy parenting.

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2009-02-12T21:58:00.000-08:00

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EOQOSIT: Listing High Quality Overseas Product Providers / Service Suppliers

2009-01-04T16:11:00.000-08:00

The European Organisation for Quality in Outsources Services and International Trade (EOQOSIT) is launching its definitive business directory for Indian companies wishing to export products or services to the United Kingdom. The www.uk-indiabusiness.com website is officially launched at the end of January 2009. EOQOSIT's directories allow only one company for each category and allow entry by invitation only . Companies cannot 'buy their way in'. We maintain the highest quality in our listed companies by investigating any complaints made against services and removing the company if the complaint is upheld. In this way we ensure that are listed companies remain of the very highest standard. EOQOSIT is a 'not for profit' organisation witth the sole aim of 'raising the bar' for the standard of outsourced services provided to the EU. If you are considering procurring products or services from India, then make EOQOSITs www.uk-indiabusiness.com approved directory your start point.

Keep a little secret...it won't do any harm

2008-11-14T16:03:00.001-08:00

Being in a serious relationship sometimes entail that you keep no secret to your partner. It is a simple gesture that you are giving your full trust to him/her. Others would say that If you truly love someone else, you have to make yourself fully known to that person. Not bad at all, isn't it? The million dollar question is that is it a must? No, no, no, it is still ideal that you keep all your personal information as in your bank account number, atm numbers, email passwords, computer passwords and the like to yourself so that when it is high time and inevitable that you part ways, there'll be no conflicts and hassles. In a more serious and delicate matter concerning your past, I guess you better keep it to yourself too. There is no need to divulge everything to your partner just to show how much you love and trust him/her. There are instances wherein your secret works against you. I may be cynical here but you have to think of the after math of any failed relationship. More often than not, ex lovers are not friends. Your partner may turn into a monster the moment you part ways. It is very applicable to prevent something from occurring in the earliest time being. You ought to love yourself first before you could love someone else. Keep a little secret to yourself, add a little mystery in you..I bet it won't do any harm.

Miss you Papa

2008-10-29T08:54:00.000-07:00

Novermber 1 is just a few days away. In the Philippines, this is a very significant day to visit the tomb of your departed loved ones. It is the best time for family reunion and bonding. In the case of my father who died more than a year now, his remains were cremated so we need not go to the cemetery. We are planning to hold a Halloween party at my sister's house. My mom will bring my father's urn there. Sounds fun but nah. My father's death was the darkest day in our lives. We were all unprepared for that. Up to now, we all have a heavy heart thinking that Papa will never be with us anymore. The only thing that we are all wishing for is that papa is at peace now. I hope that he is with our creator now. May his sins be forgivenby the Lord. Pa, you know how much we love you. If I could just turn back the clock, I would spend more time with you. This is so painful you know. It's hard to be left by your loved one. Pa, wherever you are don't forget that we love you and we truly miss you...a lot!

Earn while making friends

2008-10-13T23:34:00.001-07:00

Good news! There's a new dating game that is designed for all filipinas out there who want to have friends abroad. The said site is a clean and decent one. This site does not permit use of foul and vulgar languages. There is no porn either. One can easily earn as much as $1000 per month. for more details on the said dating site, leave your email address and I will contact you and provide you with pertinent details. So, come on. Have fun, make friends and earn at the same time.

Should you wait until marriage for sex?

2008-09-29T20:55:00.000-07:00

They say that things that easy come, easy go. True? Well, in some cases yes. I have observed that most people put more value on things that they work hard for and waited for quite some time. This is so very true with the tree lettered word called SEX.
Mass media must perform its function as a catalyst for change. If the deteriorating value of many a youth today is caused by mass media, then it's about time that it functions otherwise. I have nothing against people who think that it is just okay to practice pre-marital sex. What I am so disgusted is the fact that a lot of people are so irresponsible when dealing with it. Some people are so careless as to the aftermath of pre-marital sex and the poor girl turns out as the loser in the end. So, girls out there, you better think not twice but a hundred times before you plunge into pre-marital sex. It is not always true that when a lot of people are doing it, it is already the right thing. It is still preferred to be the odd man out, rather than the one weeping alone. The three lettered word called SEX is not as simple as it looks. It entails full responsibility.

How to deal with anger?

2008-09-29T20:51:00.000-07:00

Stay away from me. I'm mad. This is my common by line when I am mad. I try to keep away from people who make me mad. I do this in order for me not to hurt people verbally. I may say some hurtful words which I might regret after wards. So, what I just do is to keep myself from these people. Actually, this is very effective. I avoid confrontation because I don't want to make enemies. Others try to count for as long as they could just to alleviate their anger.

Anger is defined as a strong emotion; a feeling that is oriented toward some real or supposed grievance. It is an emotional state that may range from minor irritation to intense rage. The physical effects of anger include increased heart rate, blood pressure, and levels of adrenaline and noradrenaline...Read more

Love vs. studies: Deciding what comes first

2008-09-17T13:12:00.000-07:00

When you are still studying, it is but right to concentrate on your studies. But how would you entertain a certain feeling of admiration towards your opposite sex? Do you simply ignore it and focus more on your studies? Would you feel guilty if ever you fall in love? Is there really a right time to fall in love?
The key word here is always balance. If one knows how to balance his time in every aspect of life, nothing can ever go wrong. Learning to prioritize things is the deciding factor for success. Nobody can ever say that they fall in love at the right time for there is no such thing as the right time. You feel love in the most unexpected way and manner. Sometimes you just woke up one morning thinking of that person. You may even have some sleepless nights too. One thing that we must be grateful to our creator is for giving us this capacity to feel something towards a person. This makesus all distinct from his other creation.

Jealousy---Is-it-Healthy-Or-Not?

2008-09-14T18:58:00.000-07:00

They say that you would only know that your partner truly loves you If he shows sign of jealousy. The thing is,up to what extent should we welcome jealousy and regard is as healthy. We have heard of so many news on crime for passion and the like. I guess, If ever one gets jealous he/she must learn to manage it. Never allow jealousy to rule over your system. Remember the golden rule on love: anything that is not in moderation is bad.

"The Road Not Taken"

2008-09-04T00:04:00.000-07:00

I am 35 years old now. I have a very vivid memory of a certain poem which my high school teacher asked us to read. I often wonder and ask myself the question "what If?" I guess, in one way or the other, all of us have asked this question. The poem by Robert Frost which always pops into my mind whenever I am down and melancholic goes like this:
The Road Not Taken

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,

And sorry I could not travel both

And be one traveler, long I stood

And looked down one as far as I could

To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,

And having perhaps the better claim

Because it was grassy and wanted wear,

Though as for that the passing there

Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay

In leaves no step had trodden black.

Oh, I marked the first for another day!

Yet knowing how way leads on to way

I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh

Somewhere ages and ages hence:

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I,

I took the one less traveled by,

And that has made all the difference.

Robert Frost

Have you taken the right road? I hope that I did.

Scam or no Scam?

2008-09-01T21:19:00.000-07:00

Last week I was so surprised when I read my email. An email caught my attention because the sender is asking for my full cooperation and I would have to keep the whole transaction as a top secret. All that I have to do is cooperate fully with him. He was an African banker according to him. In their annual accounting of the banks depositors, he said that they came across a certain dormant account because the client died in a plane crash or something and left no kin. He wanted me to pose as a kin to the deceased person. The amount involve? Only $8,000,000.00. The deal is that he will get the 55% and I will get the 40% and the 5% for all the expenses that will be incurred during the whole transaction. Tempting isn't it? I would be a hypocrite If I would tell you that I wasn't tempted. But after three days of thorough thinking, I came up with the decision that I would not go for it. Assuming that it is authentic, I couldn't afford to live luxuriously knowing that I claimed something which is not lawfully mine. I have a gut feel too that it is a fraud because they would ask you to send them your driver's license number, bank account number and some pertinent infos. I turned him down. After a day, I got another email from another person singing the same song again. I ignored it. I don't know with you.

How to get rid of CRACKED HEEL?

2008-09-01T21:01:00.000-07:00

Are you tired and embarrass of being seen with your cracked heel? Well, worry no more. I have some useful and economical way to get rid of those cracked heel.

Mash two bananas and apply it on your cracked heel. Leave for five minutes.
Squezze two to three pieces of kalamansi and apply it on your cracked heel. Leave for five minutes.
Mix two tablespoon of petroleum jelly with two kalamansi and apply it on your cracked heel. Leave for ten minutes.
Apply petroleum jelly on your cracked heel and put on socks overnight.

Try any of those practical suggestions and you will see the result soon. You need not have a foot spa

Is It Okay to Give Your Kid The Latest Gadget In Town?

2008-09-01T18:40:00.000-07:00

The very reason why parents work so hard is to provide their children with all their needs as much as all their wants. As a doting mother of six kids, I feel so happy and elated whenever I see my children so happy and contented with all the things that my husband and I are giving them. Children's brag right is so evident on their faces. The question is how much should we give our children? Should we always give them all their wants. Technological gadgets on games and communication system is so rampant in the market. You'll be surprised to know that your children would ask you to buy miniature gadgets which actually cost ten to twenty thousand pesos. My golly! The price is so dear that it could already mean a half month of our food allowance. I remember when my second child celebrated his 14th birthday this year. He was asking for a PSP as his birthday gift. My husband did not give in to his request because we know that his studies is not doing great this year because he is into computer games so badly. How much more If he could have that little gadget wherein we could not monitor his usage of it.? We know that he was sad and upset but we have to be firm on our decision. In the end he would understand that we are just being stern for his own sake.

Long lost pals

2008-08-25T22:49:00.000-07:00

This weekend, I was so excited and happy at the same time because I was able to talk with my two special friends back in high school. I lost touch with them when I got married. It's been twenty years since I last saw them. You could just imagine the excitement that I felt when I talked with them over the phone via an overseas call. The two of them are in L.A. as of this time. I am so grateful that with the help of internet and cell phone, I was able to find my dear friends. It has a bonus because I was able to see some of our classmates and friends too in the Friendster. Thank God and thank humanity for the wonderful breakthrough in communication technology.

Self reliance

2008-08-21T19:08:00.000-07:00

First time parents tend to be more protective. As much as possible, these brand new parents would not want anything wrong to happen to their child. Is it bad to be very protective? In some ways, YES. As in any cases, anything that is not done in moderation is always bad. Over-protectiveness is often the reason why many children, especially here in the Philippines, become very dependent on their parents. A lot of parents teach their children about self reliance a little bit late. Let us not underestimate the capacity of our children. Do you know that even at a very young age, you can actually teach your kid on self reliance? Yes, by merely teaching your baby a simple task as in holding his feeding bottle, you are teaching him on how to be independent. Simple household chores are often the training ground on independence. Of course, there are some exceptions. You could easily depict if the situation really calls for your help. Try teaching your kid not to be totally dependent on you most of the times. I bet that as your child grows, you will see the benefit of how your child practice independence at an early age.

Remembering NINOY AQUINO

2008-08-20T19:29:00.000-07:00

Today is August 21. the whole Filipino nation is commemorating the 25th death anniversary of Ninoy Aquino. Who is Ninoy Aquino? A lot of young people today do not know him. He was the most controversial critic of Marcos regime. He was known for his message that the Filipinos are worth dying for. The question is are we really worth dying for? I hope that our leaders would be reminded of the good deeds of NINOY AQUINO. I hope that our greedy leaders would realize that when they die, they cannot take all the material things with them. I hope that these greedy leaders would stop robbing our poor economy. Let NINOY be a reminder to all of us that there is hope despite of all the hardships and crises that the Philippines is facing. Let there be a stop to this senseless conflict in Mindano which have caused lives of many innocent people. Let there be peace in our country. Let it start with me and you. Let us all be a hero in our own little way.

Stay away from me: I'M ANGRY

2008-08-20T18:46:00.000-07:00

Did you ever feel so mad? I bet all of us did in one point in our life. I bet that given a chance, you would not want to get mad. Aside from the fact that when you are angry, you will look bad and your mind is not at peace. What do you do to manage your anger? Do you shout at the person or do you inflict harm on them? A lot of people are alarmed when they are mad especially those who have violent tendencies.

Anger is an emotional state that may range from minor irritation to intense rage. The physical effects of anger include increased heart rate, blood pressure, and levels of adrenaline and noradrenaline. Some view anger as part of the fight or flight brain response to the perceived threat of pain. Anger becomes the predominant feeling behaviorally, cognitively and physiologically when a person makes the conscious choice to take action to immediately stop the threatening behavior of another outside force.

It is very important that a person knows how to deal with anger. A lot of techniques have been considered to minimize anger. One is to stay away from the person who cause your anger. The more you see and feel that person's presence can only aggravate your anger. If you cannot get rid of him, you may try counting silently from 1-100 or until you feel that you are not that angry anymore. If you think that you have some violent tendencies when you get angry, try to help yourself by asking God's help that you may eradicate anger in your heart. With god, nothing is impossible. It is always right and good karma to always think good and do good towards your fellow.

Say NO when you have to.

2008-08-18T20:51:00.000-07:00

Have you ever turned down a person? The feeling is quite heavy right? Sometimes, I have this tendency to say yes to almost everyone. I hate seeing people get disappointed in anyway. As much as possible I want to please everyone. I know that it is very impossible. One way or the other we would have to tell others that we simply cannot give everything or agree with them all the way. This has been my problem ever since. My eldest brother would always remind me never to let people hanging. I hate turning down my suitors because I hate seeing them sad and down. I just let them get tired of me. My brod would simply tell me that I have to be frank and blatant about my feelings. The more I prolong their waiting, the more I inflict pain on them. I gave that suggestion a thorough thought and he was right after all. I started being honest with my feelings. I am not God. I cannot simply please everyone because I'm just human. As always, it is very right to be open about your feelings and about yourself.

Come on, don't be shy.

2008-08-18T20:05:00.000-07:00

Most Filipinos are noted for being timid and shy. Even in school, I have observed that most of my classmates would rather keep quiet than ask questions to our teacher when we were asked if there are no questions on the topics that she had discussed. I noticed that very few would actually ask questions. Our silence was taken by our teacher that the topic was well understood. But the moment the result of the exam came out, my God , the result was at total dismay. This timidity by most Filipinos is a negative trait that we must all work very hard to overcome. Even my kids are very timid most of the times. I would always remind them that I was not raised like that. The world needs outspoken people to be able to develop and improve. What would happen to our world if all of us would just nod on our leaders on anything that they say? I know that silence is just a manifestation of our desire to be perfect. We fear that people might laugh at our weaknesses if ever we ask question. Pride holds us back. We are afraid that others might think that we are just plain dumb. We are afraid to be labeled us weak. This is my goal in life. I want my children to be outspoken and forget about shyness. . I want them to ask intelligent questions. When one asks, he does not just exist in this world. He is curious of the world around him. No one can fool him in any manner. I want to start with my own children. I want them to know and realize that it is not right to keep quiet all the time. if you think that you are right, stand up and speak up. For all you know, a lot of people have already benefit on your simple query. An inquisitive mind is always synonymous to desire to learn things which are obscure to you.

Is White really beautiful?

2008-08-15T04:59:00.000-07:00

A lot of advertisements on whitening products and services are proliferating these days. They can be seen and read in all forms of mass media. Celebrities are widely utilized to endorse such products and services. The sales result proved that such technique is very effective. Have you ever wondered why whitening products are very in demand in the market? Well, obviously many Filipinos want to achieve a fairer skin. Filipinos have this notion that being white is tantamount to being pretty. Everybody wants to be beautiful. Who does not?

Personally I have nothing against people who want to have a fairer skin. If being white can help boost one's self esteem, why not? We must be very particular though in taking whitening pills and using whitening products. There are some instances wherein a negative reaction on a certain product occurs. It is best to consult a certified dermatologist on what product will suit your skin type. An ounce of prevention is still better than a pound of cure.

Remember that external beauty fades in time for they are merely superficial, what matters most is the inner beauty for it lingers.

Should you tilt back your head to treat a nosebleed?

2008-08-15T04:41:00.000-07:00

I have this habit of reading newspapers which are a month old already. I do this to be able to pick up some news and information which I can blog on and share with others. As I was scanning the newspaper, my attention was caught by the header "should you tilt back your head to treat a nosebleed?" I got curious because I have two daughters who are frequent nosebleeders. Whenever their noses bleed, I always ask them to tilt back their head and I would pinch their nose bridge gently for 10 seconds. As I read the article written by Anahad O'connor in the Manila Bulletin's Lifestyle section issued last July 22,2008, it says that it is not adviseable to tilt back one's head to treat a nosebleed. According to the author, medical experts say that what most people know about nosebleed is wrong. Tilting the head back, a technique widely considered first aid can create complications by allowing blood into the esophagus. It risks choking, and it can cause blood to travel to the stomach, possibly leading to irritation and vomiting. O'connor also added that the American Academy of Family Physician says that the best treatment is to sit down, lean forward and keep your head above your heart, whech lessens the bleeding. Leaning forward also helps drain the blood from the nose and keeps it from the esophagus. Moreover, a report in the British journal BMJ says you can stop the bleeding by using your thumb and index finger to squeeze the soft tissue just below the bridge of yur nose for 5 to 10 minutes. A cold compress or ice pack placed across the bridge of the nose can also help.

The bottom line of the author's article: never treat a nosebleed by leaning your back.
Geez, I've been doing that to my children for quite sometime. Now, I know better. I hope you will do the same too.

Gaining Weight After Giving Birth

2008-08-13T20:23:00.000-07:00

Did you ever tell yourself that you look like a walking refrigerator after giving birth? Yuck! That's the exact word that I uttered when I saw myself in the mirror after giving birth. All the curves in my body are gone. Humps were very visible in my body and worst I got stretched marks in my tummy. I told myself that I should have listened to my mother when she told me not to scratch my tummy even if it gets so itchy while I'm pregnant. But I can't help it so the remnants are very visible. Do not think that I'm so vain but I just wanted to look good for myself and for my husband as well. You need not to be beautiful for others but for yourself only and for the ones who mean most to you.

Actually, I did not do any diet regimen nor reduce my food intake but I was surprised to see myself fit into my old clothes again and when I weighed myself, I actually lost twenty pounds already in just four months after I gave birth. My secret? Breastfeed your baby. It wont do you any harm. You can save a lot of money. Imagine the high cost of formula milk nowadays. You also spare yourself from the effort of waking up in the middle of the night and sometimes in the wee hours of the morning just to prepare the feeding bottle of your kiddo. Breast milk is the best for your baby too. In my own children, I observed that they are not sickly. They are alert and healthy. Thanks to God. There is also a bond that sticks us together that no matter how many times we misunderstood each other, we easily patch things up.

If you are pregnant and afraid of gaining unwanted pounds, do not deprive yourself of the proper food and nutrients. You have a baby to feed inside your womb. Don't worry if you gain weight a little during pregnancy. As long as you are a hands on mom and you breastfeed, you can get rid of those fats with no sweat at all.

Laughter is still the best medicine

2008-08-12T21:42:00.000-07:00

Are you a little edgy these days? Do you worry so much about everything and anything? Do you feel that you look older than your age? Well, I guess it's about time that you take my best prescription so far...LAUGHTER! Yes, you read it right. Still, laughter is the best medicine. Do you know that when you frown, you are actually giving our dermatologist a problem and job as well.

An aging face is characterized by both wrinkling and sagging. In order to have a more youthful appearance many times we turn to the cosmetic surgeon to correct the sagging aspects of the face. We also look to other invasive procedures for the wrinkling aspect such as laser resurfacing, deep acid peels and Botox injections. As we are all aware, these aggressive procedures carry risks. Also, they can often leave us with an unnatural appearance. So there, I'm pretty sure that as much as possible you would not want to look older than your age and you would not want to spend if you can actually avoid spending. I bet that you would do anything just to preserve your youthful look. Before you go into that stage, why not try the immediate remedy first. Avoid stressing yourself. Avoid frowning too much and avoid those people who make you frown and down. Laugh when you feel like laughing. It will bring delight to your heart and your looks as well. Remember that when you laugh, the whole world laughs at you. But when you cry, you cry alone. Stay beautiful and healthy.

Why do I blog?

2008-08-12T00:15:00.000-07:00

Before I started blogging, I was a bit reluctant If I will pursue this. Why? Because the whole blogging thing is totally alien to me. I never heard of it or read about it. Others may ask where in the world was I hiding all these time. Funny but the truth is, the last time that I used the computer was I think fifteen years ago. That was when I was doing my thesis back in college. I remember that before you can operate a computer, you need to install DOS (Data Operating System if I am not mistaken). There is no mouse yet. You have to press control something to execute a command. Lucky you people who are now enjoying the comfort and ease of the present innovation in computer. Maybe, I am not on the techie side thus I was so behind in terms of technology. This may be the reason why some of my children do not think that I am that smart because they know something which I don't. But I believe that it's never too late to learn things as long as one is very much willing.

As for blogging, I can't remember the number of times I ask my sister-in-law (she's my mentor by the way) what is it all about. She just told me (I want to mention her name but I haven't ask her permission yet so I won't ) that blogging is just like a diary that you keep everyday. You can write about anything that you see, feel or think about and that's it. Plus, you can earn MONEY from it. The latter actually made me think twice. I woke up one morning telling myself that it's about time that I subscribe to one of the internet services. I have to grow as a person. This blogging thing is the first step.

Yesterday, I was reading the newspaper that my husband brought home. I came across an article written by Jaye C. Bautista. It was an article about techie mommy talks. Actually, the article has two parts. My face lit up as I read the article because it talks about blogging. According to Jaye, gone are the days that moms just stayed at home and take care of their kids. Now, they can stay at home, learn and earn at the same time. Moms now can blog. According to Jaye,Wikipedia lists a blog (a contraction of the term "Web log") as a website usually maintained by an individual, with regular entries of commentary, descriptions of events, or other material such as graphics or video. Entries are commonly displayed in reverse-chronological order. "Blog" can also be used as a verb, such as blogging is the actual action of maintaining or adding content to a blog.

According to Jaye,a working mom (and once again she quoted, working mom applies to all types whether they work FROM the home, IN the home or OUTSIDE of home) has her stresses but found out that the nice way te relieve these stresses is by VENTING. And blogging seems like the perfect avenue to take this to. She found out the comfort in it and so do an increasing number of people.

Now, I'm pretty sure that I'm on the right track. I am actually doing something which I really enjoy. I found the perfect avenue to impart whatever knowledge I know and have ( I hope you are picking up something from me). I just have to be patient before I could earn the way my sister-in-law does. Now, I can actually talk about anything under the sun. It's a great way to release the day to day stress.

Happy blogging everyone!

Parenting technique shown in a drugstore

2008-08-10T22:04:00.000-07:00

I was in one of the outlets of Mercury Drug the other night. I ran out of vitamins for my children. While I was waiting for my turn to be served, my attention was captured by the monitor displayed just right in front of the counter. My attention was caught by some parenting tips on how to raise a polite child. I'm number 15 and the pharmacists are currently attending to number 7. I opted to watch the video clips. The video showed some helpful tips in raising a polite child. First, it says that parents must practice what they preach. They must set a good example to their children. Next, teach your child to say thank you. It's best to teach your kids while they are young so that when they are already old, they will not depart from it. Let them appreciate small things and big things. They must not laugh at others disability. Let your children realize that a NO is a NO. Be consistent and firm. Maintain an open communication with your child.

I would say that videos of these sort being shown in public places such as a drugstore is a good move by the management. This is very beneficial to the would be parent and parents. A lot of mistakes in parenting have been committed everyday. It's never too late to start educating the people. I hope that other public establishments will follow what mercury drug is doing.

Discovering your child's potentials

2008-08-08T17:54:00.000-07:00

I am a believer that everyone of us is created with innate talent. It' s just up to us to discover it.

My second child, MATT, was 10 when he showed interest in basketball. Our house is situated near the basketball court in our village. He will always play basketball there whenever he has free time. One afternoon, my husband took Matt in Alabang Town Center to buy some stuff. When they got home, my husband was telling me that our son is so interested in joining the MILO BEST. MILO BEST is a school of some sort which specializes in giving children proper training in basketball. It has six levels. They saw the advertisement in the mall that Milo Best is having a regular classes in San Beda Alabang. Matt was so persistent in joining so my husband decided to enroll him the following weekend. He was enrolled in MILO Best. In level 1, he did not get an award. He still wanted to continue with the program so we enrolled him again in level 2. We were so surprised to see his improvements during the session. During graduation day, he was awarded as best in free-throw. In level 3, he was the most defensive man and in level 4, he got the Nilo Verona Award which is a very prestigious award given to excellent students. All of my son's achievements in basketball really make us proud parents. Now, Matt is in his third year in high school at San Beda Alabang. He is a varsity in basketball. Out there he enjoys what he loves most, playing basketball. We are just hoping that he will be able to fulfill his dreams someday and finally make it to the PBA.

08-08-08

2008-08-07T20:59:00.000-07:00

Do you believe in lucky numbers? Fortunately or unfortunately, we Filipinos are great believers of sheer luck. This is evident by the thousands of Filipinos betting in Lotto. They are hoping that they will hit the jackpot prize and be an instant millionaire without shedding a single sweat.
Today is August o8,2008. Most Filipinos believe that this is such a lucky day for it occurs just once in a hundred years. Some expectant mothers who are about to give birth today is very positive that their babies who will be born today are very lucky.
Chinese believes that number 8 is such a lucky number for it has no end and circles mean money.
Personally, I believe that we must not be very fatalistic. It's not bad though to believe in luck but we must also exert an effort and do our part in attaining our goals. If we will just sit and relax the whole day, no such luck would ever come out.

Washing Clothes

2008-08-07T19:02:00.000-07:00

Washing clothes is a task that every woman must know.

It is still preferred that you wash your delicate clothes manually. There are certain fabrics that are so meticulous that when they are put in washing machine, there is a possibility that its original fabric will not be maintained. If you have time, you can wash with your bare hands. This method does not only preserve your clothes but can save electricity considerably. Women in the rural area use this method in washing clothes.
For most women on the go and who want to save time and energy, they prefer to use washing machine. You just have to sort out your clothes according to color and fabric. You have to avoid overloading your washing machine so that it can function better. Knowing the capacity of your machine ensures better performance.
I believe that it's not only the woman who must have the knowledge in washing clothes. Men must know this task so that they will not depend solely on the woman. At present, household jobs are no longer sexist.

multi-tasking

2008-08-06T23:01:00.000-07:00

Are you ready for these? These are just some of the household chores that a woman has to do everyday of her life once she gets married. That is of course If she will not hire a maid. Here in the Philippines, most middle-class family start their family without a maid yet for financial reasons. Truly, a woman's job is so vast. Her duties and obligations with her family seem endless. From the moment she exchanged her vow to her husband, she submits herself to a tremendous and arduous task. Truly, a woman is an unsung hero. We must all pay tribute to our mothers for giving herself wholeheartedly and unselfishly to her family. Kudos to all the women out there! You're such wonderful creation of God.

My four angels

2008-08-05T00:34:00.000-07:00

I have 6 kids. I got two boys and four girls. In my 16 years of motherhood, I can say categorically that it is a lot easier to raise girls than boys. Girls are so easy to handle notwithstanding the fact that I am a girl and I understand very well how girls think and act. Also, I have so much fun dealing with my daughters. Girls are more expressive than boys in so many ways. Also my girls are more diligent in their studies. They can easily balance their time between playing and studying. I am still hoping that I could see some improvement in my two sons' attitude towards their studies.

2008-08-04T00:56:00.001-07:00

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Two Faces of Malnutriton

2008-08-03T21:01:00.000-07:00

In an episode in the regular television series in ABS-CBN hosted by Karen Davila last week, malnutrition was thoroughly tackled. This has made the public more aware that malnutrition does not only occur on underweight people but also to the overweight ones.

As always, the underweight has captured the limelight and earn the sympathy of the viewers. It is so depressing to see people who are so skinny because they have nothing to eat and feed their body. Poverty has been pointed as culprit since time immemorial. Children from a very large family are the often victims of malnutrition. Government never ceases to look for ways on how to alleviate poverty and help the poor here in the Philippines but to no avail. Again, graft and corruption among few individuals are the obvious reasons why the allotted help for the less fortunate never reaches the hands of the needy.

What captured the interest of the viewer is the reportage on the overweight children and why they are classified as malnourished. Mal is tantamount to bad thus malnourished is badly nourished. Parents of these overweight children mistook the heaviness of their child as healthy. Parents thought that as long as they are able to make their child eat, that's already enough. Sometimes, they are not aware that they are feeding their children with the wrong food. The proliferation of so many fast food restaurants contribute greatly to the problem. Children often eat food that are served in these fast food. These food are proven not good for a growing up child. The three basic food groups must be present in a child's diet. Parents tend to follow the caprices of their children when they only want to eat food that are sold in the popular fast food. Parents want to see their children eating so to be able to make their child eat, they follow their desire.

These problems were clearly tackled in that particular episode. Viewers could easily grasp the message that the program want to convey. I hope that more educational programs will be shown to the viewing public so that our social problems will be minimized. I am a believer that educating our people is the key for a more developed nation.

Honesty

2008-08-03T20:42:00.000-07:00

Honesty as the song says is such a lonely word because everyone is so untrue. We hear a lot of stories about dishonest person, political figure and social ones. We see so many problems on graft and corruption in government that root from dishonesty. Have you ever wondered how our world will look like if everyone is honest? Wow, that would be a great world to live in indeed. There will be no more wars, no conflicts, no hatred and greed whatsoever. That would be an ideal world.

A lot of great pretenders have been victims of their own scheme. When one is dishonest, he seems to have lost his peace of mind. He can't function normally and he is always anxious because he is afraid that his pretensions might be unraveled. That is the greatest dillema of great pretenders and dishonest people.

How I really wish that this world would be free from dishonest individuals. Let us spare our society with more graft and corruption problems.

Pinnochio Parenting

2008-07-29T20:32:00.000-07:00

Everyone will agree with me that at one point in their lives, their parents have lied to them or made them believe in some things that are fictitious and nonexistent. There is the ever famous Santa Claus who according to our dear parents visits our house during Christmas Eve just to give his presents to children who have been good for the whole year and no present at all to those kids who have been bad. Actually this white lie made by our dear parents is so popular in the whole wide world. Some parents make it as an excuse or a tool to tame or discipline their children. Our dear parents know for a fact that children are the most vulnerable creatures on earth. They can easily be tricked and fooled. But wait, some psychologists detest the idea of parents telling lies, white or black lies, to their children.Read more.

Death of a Father

2008-07-29T20:26:00.000-07:00

It was a typical Sunday morning. I woke up quite late that day. I did my usual chores. I was excited because later that day, I would get to visit my parents and siblings. Visiting my folks is something that I always look forward to. Since I got married sixteen years ago, being with them is something that I enjoy doing. I really miss them a lot especially when we moved to Cavite. It is not so convenient to always visit them often. That day was special because papa was going to have a pre-birthday celebration. His birthday falls on a Tuesday so he decided to hold it on a Sunday. He liked seeing us together.read more.

Bilingual Baby

2008-07-28T17:19:00.000-07:00

It is very apparent in any bilingual baby that he develops quite late compare to a monolingual baby. The former can easily utter two or more simple words in his first year. Sometimes the case is much earlier.
Children who grow up hearing to different languages face certain challenges, and also have some advantages. When babies grow up hearing two different languages in about equal amounts. most become fluent in both languages simultaneously. There is no cost in terms of emotional or intellectual delays. For example, they may find it easier to learn certain grammar rules or rules relating to reading and writing. And, of course, they can speak with a wider range of people than children who speak a single language.
Parents must encourage their babies to speak two languages for this will be beneficial on their child when the time comes that the child is send to school.

How to care for diabetic feet

2008-07-28T17:09:00.000-07:00

Diabetics continue to grow in number. Here are some pointers to consider in caring for diabetic feet to spare diabetic feet from getting worse.

Do not smoke. It decreases the blood supply to your feet.
Never walk barefoot, whether indoors or out.
Examine your feet daily for redness, warmth, blisters,ulcers,scratches,cuts and nail problems from shoes or other sources. Look at the bottom of your feet and between the toes. Use a mirror or have someone else look for you.
Call your doctor immediately if you experience any injury to your foot. Even a minor injury is an emergency for a patient with diabetes.
Examine your shoes for foreign objects, protruding nails and rough spots inside before putting them on. Look and feel.
Buy shoes late in the day. Do not wear new shoes more than two hours at a time. Rotate your shoes. Do not wear the same shoes ones every day.
Never wear sandals or thongs.
Lubricate your entire foot if your skin is dry, but avoid putting cream between your toes.
Do not soak your feet. Skin can break down and won't heal well.

Filipinos:Ardent Teledrama Viewers

2008-07-28T16:58:00.000-07:00

For so many decades, Filipinos never ceased to show their love and passion for teledramas. It is so evident in the influx of local and foreign television drama series that television network offer to their viewers. The mere fact that these shows continue to stay on air and really rate tremendously among other television programs only means that they have constant viewers to maintain its rating and be noticed by the advertisers. As we all know, advertisers are the heart and soul of the television industry. Why teledramas? Filipinos by nature are light hearted persons. They easily empathize. Also, Filipinos' unending battle with poverty dirives them to divert their problems even for a while into watching such series on tv. They would rather make themselves engrossed with the characters' problem than their own problems.

Shoes Clues

2008-07-28T16:43:00.000-07:00

Buying new pair of shoes for your baby is quite a task. There are lots of factors to consider when buying shoes for your babies. Top of the list is comfort. When babies are concerned, there are no redeeming qualities if the shoes are not comfortable in the first place. Who cares if the shoes is signature or not. What matters most is the comfort of your baby in wearing that shoes. It all comes down to how the feet feel in them. Second is the style. Babies are already irresistibly cute as they are, but put them in a snazzy outfit and you will find that the gushing level of the people around them can be upped to a crazy degree. Third in the list but definitely the most relevant is the price. There are those who can afford and there are those who are just practical. We all know for a fact that baby's feet grow fast. It is not so wise to spend a fortune on a pair of shoes if it will just be of service to your baby for quite a short time only. Why spend so much on something the baby will wear no more than five times before he or she outgrows them. Then, there is the brand. Most moms insist that they do not really care about brands, but then proceeded to cite some labels as the ones they patronize. However, they are also quick to justify that it is only because these shoes have proven themselves to be worth the investment.

Who killed my marriage?

2008-07-24T23:50:00.000-07:00

Getting married is the most difficult decision that one has to do. If you think that your marriage has to end, try to contemplate on what went wrong and answer the question who killed your marriage.

Poweful Boob Tube:Television

2008-07-24T18:33:00.000-07:00

Have you ever wondered how your household would look like without a television set? Do you think that your house is complete by itself? No,no,no. This would be your answer absolutely if you are a stay at home mom like me who is left at home most of the time especially during school days.A television set provides us entertainment, delight, information and a companion.

First day of school:how to help your child

2008-07-24T18:27:00.000-07:00

A parent's first major task in the knowledge building of their kids is how to help their kinds on their first day of school. It is anticipated that there are some scenes that are not so easy to handle if parents were not able to condition their children into going to school.

Essays: Why I write

2008-07-23T23:36:00.000-07:00

A very stimulating and worth doing activity pops into mymind when my sister-in-law prompted me into blogging. She encouraged me into writing since I am a mass communication graduate. Before I took broadcasting as a major in college, I was a journalism major then. I just shifted into broadcasting because I thought that I was not that effective as a writer.

Sibling Rivalry

2008-07-23T23:33:00.000-07:00

In any family, it is inevitable to create feud especially if kins are the culprit. Sibling rivalry is the most common problem of a family consisting of several children. The aggravating factor is usually due to the unfair treatment given to the children by parents and kins. A child who is a victim of sibling rivalry manifests a difference in behavior. Parents should take part in solving this family problem before this leads into something more serious.

Is it easier to raise girls or boys?

2008-07-21T23:46:00.000-07:00

Having half a dozen kids is no joke. I have six different children with six different attitudes and behavior to deal with every single day of my life. A very simple query was posted on me which leads me into a deep thinking. I have two boys and four girls. Is it easier to raise girls or boys? I would say girls without sounding feminist here. Aside from the fact that girls are easy to tame and control, I have an easy time to talk with them in any manner that I like.

Sleep, Insomia, Good Skin

2008-07-07T01:32:00.000-07:00

When was the last time you had a good night sleep? The feeling was heavenly, right? You have a clearer disposition in life. You look good. Your skin glows. You could do your job well and most of all, you could maintain that killer smile continuously flashing on your face. So, forget wearing that grumpy face of yours when you didn't get a good sleep.

But how do I get a good sleep? This is the million dollar question of the millions of insomniacs out there. Some have consulted professional help and others have tried all the over the counter drugs just to find the best cure for the disorder. Before taking any measure that would involve money and spending, why not follow these helpful tips:

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